Kardashian was one of the two dozen women at Sánchez’s 53rd birthday luncheon hosted by philanthropist Laura Arrillaga-Andreessen in Malibu (complete with fondant helicopter cake). Bezos also threw Sánchez a surprise birthday dinner at Horses, the West Hollywood hot spot. In his speech, Bezos said, “One thing I learned about Lauren is if I’m in a bind, I can throw the gun to her.” Trixy believes the eating trials will not bother him. She said: “He voluntarily eats offal. I bet this isn’t even the first time he’s had a gourmet testicle.” Trixy said Farage, 59, likes to kill and prepare his food. I enjoy using my body to dominate and at 6’5” I’m quite imposing. That being said I do love my props such as floggers, collars and cuffs. I first became interested in BDSM during my master's program in psychology when I chose to write a paper on sadomasochism. I wrote more papers on SM during my master's and PhD programs, then ultimately wrote my doctoral dissertation on erotically submissive men. During this time, I took workshops and classes on different BDSM topics, preparing myself to work as a professional dominatrix. For his birthday, Sánchez gave Bezos a large-format photograph of the science fiction section at the tiny Cotulla, Texas, library. This is where Bezos spent his childhood summers reading Asimov and Heinlein—an experience that inspired his lifelong fascination with space. “She’s a good gift giver,” he says. “She puts a lot of thought into it.”

They range from the “newbie” who has an interest that's been sparked in him and is curious and seeking a safe person and place to explore all the way to those who've been playing in the arts of BDSM for 20 or 30 years and only want to play with someone who has the experience and knowhow to take them to that special place only an experienced dominatrix can. Sánchez likes to drive her daughter to school. The ritual includes Bezos calling out to Ella before they leave, “Don’t learn anything I wouldn’t learn!”—a line that has become so dependable that the teenager now finishes it for him. “Sometimes we tussle,” Sánchez says of the school runs. “Other times she really opens up, and other times she says nothing and I take it in.” In the evening, after tutoring and piano lessons, the family eats dinner together. “Every night.” Over the years, my slaves would complain that they couldn’t figure out how to introduce their girlfriends or wives to female dominance. I co-wrote a book titled How to be a Dominant Diva which focuses on giving couples the inspiration and tools to explore eroticism, role-play and power exchange in a way that is exciting but never intimidating! He once told me he wished he could kill everything he eats. He caught, killed and gutted some cod for me and my family. So it’s actually the rats and snakes who should be more afraid of him.” There is no typical client. I see couples, women, CEOs, Uber drivers, married guys, virgins. There’s the client who saves up for six months to have a session that means the world to him and the client who just needs a thrill on his lunch break. It runs the gamut.If I can’t do that, I’ll definitely be voting for him to do horrible things. My whole family and all my friends will be voting. I think it’ll be cathartic to see him take on something gross with dirt, bugs and snakes, ideally in an enclosed space underground. He would really hate that.” I would have to say that I don’t have much patience for newbies who do not understand the protocol of how to communicate respectfully and professionally with a dominatrix. Will she be taking his name? She looks at me like I am insane. “Uh, yes, one hundred percent. I am looking forward to being Mrs. Bezos.”

Intuition, imagination and understanding the psychology of the dynamic. Use of the tools, equipment and bondage is the easy stuff and I’m great at all of that. I love nice equipment so my dungeon is fully equipped with the best of everything for most BDSM play. Saturday family movie nights are a tradition. The week we meet they’d just enacted their own version of Barbenheimer with Oppenheimer screened Saturday night and Barbie on Sunday. “Of course, Jeff’s favorite movie was Oppenheimer, and I love Barbie. And there you have us summed up in two movies.” That’s, like, a leading question,” says Bezos with a laugh before dutifully answering that Sánchez does: fried eggs on flour tortillas with New Mexican green chile that Sánchez learned to make from her own grandmother. As to the responsibilities that come with being married to one of the richest men in the world? She pauses, careful: “I think there are a lot of opportunities that come with that, and I take those opportunities very seriously. We always look at each other and go, ‘We’re the team.’ So everything’s shared.” Play in the [BDSM] scene provides a mental arousal rather the traditional sense of sexual pleasure. For instance, recently I had a session where I broke my slave. My slave was pushed to his mental and physical edge—he went as far as he could go with me. Cathartically, my slave let himself go, expressed his true vulnerability and wept. I am a sadist above all in the scene; I get a high from breaking someone mentally and physically. The combination of the two is the ultimate turn on for me. These experiences are rare achievements in the years that I have played. I cherish those sessions, and they are amongst the most stimulating for me.My specialty is in tease and desperation play. There are many ways to put someone in “sub space”—a state of mind in which your inhibitions and ego go completely out the window and you are overcome by an utterly submissive feeling. One way to reach this state is via sexual desperation. By building up arousal over time without sexual gratification, eventually you reach a point where your sexual desires become too overwhelming to handle—it is a place where you are willing to do anything for gratification, and at that moment, my power over you is absolute. I get a mental turn-on from it. The mental high of dominating someone and making them submit to me is unlike anything else, and I get so much gratification out of feeling them melt like putty in my hands when I push them past what they thought they were capable of.