A must-share portion of the book is a pasted below how the brain stores trauma before we can logically process it. If we never deal with trauma, the emotion remains with us to cause pain each time the memory is recalled: Narcissistic Mothers: The Characteristics of the Narcissistic Parent: Jealousy, Manipulation, Gaslighting. Consequences on Daughters. Recovery from abuse of a toxic relationship with a mother by Elizabeth Ex What hit home was the generational pattern. The last thing I want is to gift-wrap my biological mother's worst qualities and pass them down to my kid. This book helped me see the landmines in my path and taught me how not to plant new ones for my child.

This book helps to shed light on a lot of identity issues that children face. It also helps you to identify if your mother was a narcissist.When you find someone who wants to be with you, you [may] find yourself constantly asking them for validation and reassurance about whether they really want you or whether you’re enough for them,” she says. Displaying narcissistic tendencies

Not only is this very well-written but it is also an easy read. This book approaches the topic of narcissism with a level of understanding which will make the daughters reading this book feel seen. It uses cases studies and offers technique that you can try when dealing with narcissism in the family setting. I would have loved to have known more about why narcissistic mothers have the terrible relationships with their daughters versus their sons, but I'm assuming it stems from their insecurities and comparing themselves to their daughters. Talk to a friend or seek therapy if it’s something that you believe you won’t be able to handle alone,” suggests Maurya. Millions of women have experienced the same crazy-making (not so) funhouse that is a daughter’s relationship with her narcissistic mother. This book helps you recognize the signs of a narcissistic mother, explains why your relationship is so strained, and offers supportive techniques for making the journey of self-healing. 3. Narcissistic Mothers (and Their Loveless Baggage): 6 Daughters of Toxic Parents Offer Crucial Insight for Your Self-Healing by Abigail Trent, Eileen Huxley, Lizzie Duarth, Tina Ejiofor, Annelise Burlett, and Paisley The characteristics and effects of narcissistic parents are delved into in this book. If you grew up with a narcissistic mother, you will find a lot to relate to. You also better understand how to deal with narcissistic parents.Similar to the effects of conditional love, “when your parent only loves you under a certain set of paradigms and loves big, it’s easy to think that you have to obey certain rules, even if it sacrifices your own needs,” explains Lis. As much as it’s difficult for me to post about this book I wanted to share it so others who may need it know they aren’t as alone as they feel and that there are resources out there for them. It took 37 grueling years for the truth to surface. The real reason I was treated so differently than my half sister I was raised with (by my biological mother). I guess better late than never, but come on! I just finished reading "Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers," and let me tell you, it's the kind of book you need a stiff drink to get through. And not just because it's like looking into a soul-crushing mirror, but because of those "OMG, that's me" moments. It might be time for you to dig deeper when it comes to analysing your relationship with your narcissistic mother. This book will help you to do that as it makes you start to recognize patterns of emotional abuse.

I’ve worked through therapy and I have an understanding of what’s going on, however my brain never shuts up and I want some type of release from it. So when I saw the subtitle “quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve”, I knew I had to at least give it a try. This is another highly effective book from childhood trauma specialist and psychoanalyst, Alice Miller. In this book, she discusses how embracing the truth of those early wounds can set you free from the legacy they created. She draws on cutting edge research into how the brain develops to demonstrate how those early traumas can produce denial and lead to emotional blindness. She also discusses how this cycle can easily repeat itself to create intergenerational trauma. It is only with awareness that we can break this devastating cycle. 13. When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (Shambhala Classics) by Pema Chodron Mothers with narcissistic tendencies tend to express certain qualities. According to double board certified adult and child psychiatrist Dr. Lea Lis in New York, the most common traits include: Another thing I tend to really dislike about these kind of books is when the author encourages us to treat our abuser with compassion. After years of emotional manipulation where I personally was forced to give compassion to my mother, it feels very counterproductive to then ask me to give her that again, after I have already learned that she doesn’t need my compassion, she needs my praise. Narcissists require “emotional fluffers” to feel good about themselves and if you’re their child, chances are you’re already aware of this and have worked years as their personal fluffer anticipating their emotional needs. Careful now, guess wrong and they’ll berate you.If you do not feel like you had the experience of the typical idea of what a mom should be like, you might enjoy this book. Of course, this means that it is also one of those good books for daughters of narcissistic mothers. It is straightforward and comforting at the same time.