In fact, it’s striking (though not surprising) that in a book filled with the brokenness of adultery and addiction, discussions of sin, repentance, and Christ’s atonement are completely absent. I spent many years living as an “accidental” expat before becoming more intentional about my own global life.

Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of the New York Times bestseller Carry On, Warrior and founder of the online community Momastery, where she reaches more than one million people each day.Actually, there is very little of his Word (whittled down to one word in it) and no mention of Jesus. Using a questionable translation of the Hebrew word ezer as “warrior” rather than “helper” to describe women in Genesis 2, she concludes God made her a warrior, and she deems herself a Love Warrior. You would be able tell by her footprints that she stood still for years, wondering why I was too afraid to keep walking.

You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. If we don’t trust in ourselves to be able to self-soothe through the pain of disappointment and betrayal, how can we dare to open ourselves up to love? My passenger seat is pushed up farther than my dad's seat, so all of me feels huge and thrust too far forward. Finally, I was being quiet and still enough to hear the truth: You are not supposed to be happy all the time. But even though I’d finished the book, was overcome with emotion in response to it, and had bought copies to gift to my friends, I still didn’t have a clear answer to that question.She berates her husband for being a porn addict but fails to see until much much later that she is not a nice person either, her addictions in this case happen to be food and drama. It’s about one woman letting go of the gendered messages she’s been surrounded by her entire life, and communing with her fullest, most authentic self. After both of them have fought to become the person's whom they've always wanted to be, they promise to stay together “today. In February, I traded in the gloomy winter skies of Amsterdam to spend two weeks in sunny, tropical Costa Rica. I’m desperate to get to the other side of the wall so I can see what’s waiting for me down the path.

After that therapy session, Craig packed while I laid with my children in bed until they fell asleep. My daughter was asking: How will I survive being this particular type of person in this particular type of world? Guys from a nearby fraternity occasionally hang a sign above their party room that reads: NO FAT CHICKS. We pile into our van, drive to the high school, and listen as leaves crunch under our boots during our walk toward the stadium. I took in her tears, pigtails, lip gloss, and the dirt on her hands—left over from climbing the banyan tree in our front yard.By the end of the memoir, Melton believes she has “unbecome”—that she’s stripped away all the costumes she’s worn, enabling her true self to surface.

I often introduce my clients to the concept of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) as a way for them to begin to reframe how they view their tendency to feel deeply. But, truth be told, one of the highlights of my trip was reading Glennon Doyle Melton’s book, Love Warrior.If the miners didn’t leave fast enough, the canary would die and, not much later, so would the miners. I take a beer into the shower, close my eyes, and let the water run over me, washing away the previous night’s grime and sex and shame. Everything I’d learned about bodies, womanhood, power, and pain scattered upon hearing how my little girl said the word big. The night is thumping chaos, but my mittened hand is safe inside my mother’s and she guides me forward.