Edith and Matthew talk. Carrie is calling for a taxi. Carrie says goodbye to Edith. Sheena is waiting for a taxi. Adam says he can change to Sheena, but she does not believe it. Edith cleans the mess. You have to tidy up the kids’ room again; you have to do the dishes and laundry; and the never-ending household chores are waiting. You have to organize your calendar and make room for more appointments; make time to socialise; help the kids with homework; and make a gazillion school runs. Read our guidance on healthcare in Spain and make sure you are correctly registered for your circumstances.

Important information in the 'Working in France', and 'National insurance' sections if you work in France, even it if it is for an employer based in the UK. 'Visas and Residency' and 'Passport and travel' sections also updated. So how do you go about getting to know and understand your rules for living? A good therapist can help you, of course, and techniques including hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or Transactional Analysis (TA) methods can be used to help you to uncover your rules and beliefs. Or you can do your own exploratory work. One way to do this is to think about some experiences in your life that have been bad or uncomfortable (don’t worry, this will help I promise you!). Often negative early life experiences can be very useful for this. Now think about what negative conclusions you have come to about yourself because of those experiences. An example might be “ My parents frequently shouted at me when I was a child” and the negative conclusion might be “ I was a bad child and I didn’t deserve my parents’ love“. This negative conclusion can be called your ‘Bottom Line’. Because, over time, you may have come to believe your bottom line to be true, you will have created rules for living that help you to deal with that bottom line belief, and to avoid further, similar pain. In the example above, for instance, a rule that has been adopted may be “I am not lovable, so I can expect to be rejected”. Someone living by this rule may find that they are unable to form lasting relationships, because they have a core belief that they will ultimately be rejected, so they may subconsciously seek out situations that allow this to happen. Or someone else with the same formative experience, and even the same core belief may respond in a way that causes them to avoid experiences that trigger their core belief, in this example, perhaps by avoiding close relationships altogether. If you visit other Schengen area countries outside France, make sure you do not exceed the visa-free 90 days in any 180-day period. This applies even if you have a French residence permit. You are responsible for counting how long you stay under the Schengen visa waiver, and you must comply with its conditions.If your application is refused, you will be notified about the appeal process. Read the French government advice on how to appeal a residency decision (in French). Family members Matthew tells the truth to Carrie about everything. Carrie thinks there is something going on between him and Sheena, he says there is not. Matthew tells Carrie he was going to propose to her. Self-esteem exists on a spectrum. Some people with low self-esteem find that it only affects them with certain people, or in certain situations. Other people find that their self-esteem colors everything they do. Stephen Mangan, John Rogan as Francis, Miles Jupp and Deborah Findlay in Rules for Living. Photograph: Tristram Kenton for the Guardian

Children (under 18 years old) resident in Spain, who travel out of Spain without a person who has parental responsibility, may need a certified authorisation by that person. This is required in addition to a valid travel document.visas for students, internships and language assistants from the Spanish Consulates in London, Edinburgh and Manchester There’s no need to go to extremes, so exercise common sense and learn to curb any obsessive behaviour. Be grateful and give thanks. Take inventory of the wonderful things in your life and don’t forget to give thanks. If you appreciate what you have, you’ll never want for more. Moreover, when you take people or things for granted, you put them in jeopardy. Remember, appreciate what you have, while you have it, or you’ll learn what it meant to you after you lose it. Matthew can tell that Sheena is upset with something. So he implores Sheena to tell him. She says that there is trouble with their marriage, and that she wishes someone would talk to Adam. Matthew hugs her, just as Carrie walks in, and Carrie is mad at the fact of Matthew hugging Sheena. At the centre of low self-esteem are the negative beliefs and opinions you hold about yourself. Nobody is born with beliefs like this – they develop as a result of the experiences you have throughout your life. How other people treat you, particularly when you are growing up, can greatly affect upon how you see yourself. Experiences that make you more likely to develop low self-esteem include: