What you think you would do is go in all guns blazing, get everyone to see sense, remove your daughter from the relationship and then it’s all over. For some people it’s definitely a bit of the good times are really good, I just want to make the good times longer and longer, overlaid with a very real fear of what will happen – that the bad person will come back with a vengeance if they tried to leave. I genuinely feel better-informed and safer having read this book, because now I know what to look for and know that saying you’re ‘crazy’ is never the right answer.

One of the most important books I've ever read and a fascinating insight to the violence against women and girls conversation. because controlling people, in the main, will want a rapid commitment, they may target people who they feel might give that. I spend part of my working days travelling to and from visits as a Safeguarding Social Worker; for me listening to audiobooks has become a source of education and escapism. I wish I had known this 15 years ago but feel excited and empowered to make a difference now with what I have learnt.Pregnancy makes emotional manipulation and violence more visible; stealthy, indulgent public prosecutors. As mentioned quite a few times in the book, society needs to stop excusing the perpetrators and blaming victims. In a culture that has normalised misogyny, we determinedly cling to the belief that domestic violence is a private matter in which both parties bear some responsibility. In her book Jane discusses the eight stages of domestic homicide which range from the killer having a history of stalking or domestic abuse through to the act of murder. In her new book, In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder, she lays out the eight stages of a domestic homicide timeline that flag up the potential for the coercively controlling to kill.

Being able to recognise these stages of the eight timeline is a key issue that should be learnt more to be able to keep women safe from a worryingly statistic of intimate homicide. Moreover, This largely answers my troubles with legal procedures in matters such as sexual harassment crimes.The premise of the book is to explore the escalation of dangerous relationships and that is achieved. Professor Jane Monkton Smith isnt simply an academic it's very clear that she has a deep understanding of the system and its flaws.

World-renowned criminologist Jane Monckton Smith's groundbreaking work is revolutionising the understanding of coercive control and domestic homicide among those who respond to it. We already accept that a history of control or domestic abuse is predictive of more abuse because we’ve got the domestic violence disclosure scheme. The eight stage timeline gives clear explanation of the process perpetrators go through an show professionals can try and spot these stages before stage 8. It has also challenged me to question my own behaviour and that of others around encouraging friends into relationships.

There is a domestic violence epidemic happening right now, yet as a society we still turn a blind eye to it. Breaking down coercive control and domestic behaviour patterns so we can understand, recognise, protect and believe victims. Monckton-Smith rebuts the long assumed "crime of passion" myth that underpins the loss of control doctrine (a partial defence to murder in the UK and some other common law jurisdictions) with a well-argued thesis that murder arises through a series of stages in a "dangerous relationship" that ends in murder.