Does that mean we’re never sad? Probably not. You may wish you could know your grandchildren, worry for your adult child’s safety, or grieve over the realization that you don’t have the family you wanted, imagined, and worked at. Even so, you can foster self-esteem, cherish healthy relationships, and cultivate joy. And you can look at the situation realistically.

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Ask your partner, other loved ones and friends for help. Let them know what support you need. You can ask the people in your life for help with things such as errands, chores, cooking and taking care of any older children you have. Again, we can learn from the mighty bear. Instead of cowering in fear at the unexpectedly icy greeting, the bears shake off their confusion. Then they lean into their power and head on out to find what they need. Rejected parents of adult children: Time to wake up Parents struggling with anger may find themselves triggered in social situations. Lunch with a friend who mentions grandchildren results in simmering rage. How can she be so insensitive?The parents who read my blogposts and books are at varying stages of estrangement and its effects. Some are brand new to the disconnect. Others are years, and even decades, along. There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all advice, but no matter where you fall on the estrangement continuum, the reality is that the only one you can control is yourself. Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children is a practical toolkit filled with information and solutions to the complex, real-life problems that plague parents of estranged adult children and their families.

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We were happy at first. We took family vacations to Yellowstone National Park and owned a boat one summer. But my dad’s success brought new demands and attitudes. He became involved with people and activities that drew him away. He was frequently out of town, and my mom cried a lot. I love her and always will, I know she see,s things differently than me, she looks for the bad and has forgotten all the good, I wish I could hug her and tell her her how good it really was.

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When my kids were young, more responsibility and more freedom came with successful endeavors and growth. We let out the leash, so to speak. We were glad for and supported their increasing independence. We could let them go—and trust they would do well, be fine, and still love and return to us. Those words written in Done With The Crying (2016) are as true as ever. I still hear parents talk about the anguish of estrangement even after many years. That’s because you don’t just wake up one day, after a specified time period, to a blank emotional slate with all your sadness wiped away. To expect otherwise sets you up for distress. So, don’t. Letting out the leash in letting go of estranged adult children

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Conditioning around money and success are frequently tied to inherited and limiting beliefs, or even to fears around who you might become. One father who, as a teenager, tagged along with elders of the Mormon Church to collect the tithing from struggling families, developed negative feelings about power related to money. He recalls people in poor circumstances jiggling coins from jars to give—and he vowed never to be like those elders. This father has given far more than his due to people he encountered his entire life—including adult children. Wounds or excuses? You fasted off sweets for a bit, but then the longing took hold. You imagined the sweetness and satisfaction. You couldn’t resist.

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How do you avoid ruminating? Turn your statements and questions around with positive thoughts. I am moving past this. Good things happen in my life. This suggestion may sound trite, but if negative thoughts can produce more negative thoughts, positive thoughts can be as fruitful. If they jab their finger at something, they could be frustrated trying to reach it or it could be causing agitation. Or they might keep pushing at something because it’s bothering them, like a mirror or something that’s loud or distracting .