When the affair is discovered, the involved partner is torn between two competing allegiances, and the betrayed partner develops the alarming mental and physical symptoms of obsession and flashbacks. Although I'm gratified to know that I've helped many people personally through these venues, I am hoping that I can reach many more through this book.

Her relationship expertise has made her a media favorite who is frequently cited in USA Today, the Los Angeles Times, Psychology Today, Redbook, Glamour, Ladies' Home Journal, Men's Health, and Newsweek. Involved spouses who were not committed to do everything possible to save their marriage were more likely to drop out of therapy quickly and leave the marriage. Most people, including unfaithful partners, think that talking about an affair with the betrayed partner will only create more upset, but that is actually the way to rebuild intimacy.i found the bit about flashbacks very helpful, also the obsessing about dates and what i was doing at certain times once i had found out what he was doing.

Reconciliation peer support is emotional and practical support between people who share the common experience of reconciling after infidelity. The road to recovery can be a stimulus for growth whether you travel it with your partner or you make your way alone. My own marriage ended after 35 years because my husband never admitted his many infidelities and would not talk to me about the one that I finally discovered.People who truly are initially just friends or just friendly colleagues slowly move onto the slippery slope of infidelity. The book does a good job explaining our current feelings and addressing the issues we are both dealing with right now, but it can't give us the answers as to what is the right thing for us to do. I would recommend this book to anyone who has been involved in an affair personally or tangentially as well as for any couple interested in protecting and identifying risks to their relationship.