I just saw the video Dr. K posted on Findom and OnlyFans and I am dealing with something similar. Dr. K spoke about how it was about validation and that you need to find the root of why you engage in the addiction. Most Findoms are in it purely for the money. They want a lifestyle of lying around in their bedroom and watching money arrive on their Smartphone.

In the BDSM community, it’s common knowledge that after any kind of submissive/dominant play, the Dom must give “Aftercare” to the sub. Aftercare generally involves the dominant and the submissive talking things through and enjoying some closeness. Sisterhood is powerful. Findoms are enormously supportive of one another, willing to share tips or compare “pay pigs.” These like-minded young ladies network and share stories about big pay-offs from “human wallets”…or others who’ve disappointed or disappeared on them. A findom addiction can be detrimental to a person’s mental, financial and physical health. Severe addiction can lead to bankruptcy and debt which can be a huge psychological strain on the individual and close family who care about them. Families can be torn apart through this addiction as it can cause devastating financial ruin upon the individual and other family members who decide to help. Other strains can be; Indeed, scratch the surface and start talking to people and you will find a rich vein of those for whom addiction to findom has become a problem in their life. Causing relationship breakdowns, poverty and depression. Again, the “many” here is anecdote. But whatever the case actually is data wise, we can clearly see, the outputs of this in Tweets VERY regularly.I’ll explore individual stories more later in interviews. But for now, I will spend some time exploring how I believe the problems work from a theory perspective.

It’s all about her. Financial subs don’t expect to have sex with their “goddess.” Instead he promises to be in a findom’s life strictly for her profit and pleasure. This is never a two-way street.https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0149763494000202 https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-addiction#pleasure-chemical To play a submissive role in BDSM play involves being highly vulnerable to another person. “Aftercare” ensures that the play is not psychologically damaging to the submissive.

After having engaged in findom: I feel looked at, an outcast; I have trouble opening up and standing up for myself. Another important fact to remember is that unlike drug and alcohol addiction, experts on sex addiction argue that it's less about abstinence and more about engaging in healthy sexual behaviors. Sorry, I'm not really even asking anything, I'm just venting. If anyone on here has actually managed to get rid of this disgusting addiction please give me some pointers because after years of trying I'm realising I can't do this alone. Which one of you paypiggys are going to buy me a new handbag today? Send Send Send! #Paypig #Findom #CashrapeSocial media is well known to use this process. When you post something, whether it be a picture, a joke or anything else, the act of getting likes, reactions and shares feels good. You feel connected to other people. You feel validated, supported and loved. I've seen dommes lead subs into bankruptcy, maxing out credit cards, taking out a second mortgage on a house, stealing money, and even prostituting themselves for cash. It's these men who get trapped, because they actually enjoy the suffering—it's part of their fetishization for humiliation and degradation. And their guilt for their poor life choices can also inadvertently reinforce their desire and need to seek out more experiences with their dommes. It's is a vicious circle. However, what it does do is massively strengthen the sensation of reward and its this that people become addicted too. This addiction feels like a darkness in me that slowly consumes me and changes me as person and I hate it.