A hoped-for response from your wife might have been something along the lines of “I’m so sorry that this terrible thing happened. Thank you for telling me. I love you and want to support you in any way I can. Let’s talk about where to go from here.” When people don’t get that kind of empathic response from the person they’re closest to, they either futilely attempt to get the person to validate what happened or they simply retreat into their own denial (for instance, your idea to “let it go but keep my distance,” which isn’t really possible and puts you at risk of something like this happening again). pullquote]Everything inside you is just vibrating. Your cells know that this is your person."[/pullquote] Turning Their Lives Upside Down Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other.”—Carol Saline On the way home, Melissa called a friend to explain what happened. The friend immediately inundated her with articles on GSA. "I felt a little bit better seeing that this is out there and I wasn't crazy," Melissa says. And while they didn't want to resist their overwhelming sexual attraction to each other, the couple desperately did want to understand why they were experiencing it. Over the past 10 months, they've read as many articles on the condition as possible and even saw a psychologist. I’ve always admired my little sister because she’s able to play with no fear. She’s a cutthroat player when it comes to taking risks.”—Ashley Prange

The mildest, drowsiest sister has been known to turn tiger if her sibling is in trouble.”—Clara Ortega

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You may be as different as the sun and the moon, but the same blood flows through both your hearts. You need her, as she needs you.”—George R.R. Martin Sisters are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring—quite often the hard way.”—Pamela Dugdale That's the best thing about little sisters: They spend so much time wishing they were elder sisters that in the end they're far wiser than the elder ones could ever be.”—Gemma Burgess

She says GSA is a "misnomer," though, because attraction to relatives usually requires shared genes and not being raised together — just because you're genetically related, it doesn't mean it will happen. This is why sexual attraction is occasionally reported in adoption reunions, some claim in as many as 50% of cases. If I was to give you three words to describe my big sister: encourager, supporter, and amazing!”—Ann Butler You should have come to me earlier, you could have blown it dry by now with a hair drier. I guess you will have to go naked. It will save time.”

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At this point, none of us are sure why we fight. We’re sisters. We need no good reason to fight, even though we have plenty of them.”—Ken Wheaton Mom’s comment stung, but more than anything it told me two things: She was very worried, and she wasn’t going to be able to help me. Rich was concerned, but with him, as everyone, I didn’t know what was wrong or what to ask for. And I knew he needed to work, so I tried not to let on to him how bad I was feeling. I held out a glimmer of hope though that his mother, Teri, might somehow help return me to myself.

The flip side is something Lieberman calls her "template hypothesis." All people form a template for the world based on the people and their surroundings during development: what men and women look like, what their roles are, etc. Then, they seek that out in a mate. This is common for non-related couples, too, psychologist and sex expert Isadora Alman notes. When I complained to my wife, she did not seem surprised and made some feeble excuses, ending in “Well … that’s my sister.” She has refused to confront her sister about this or even ask for an explanation. She is worried that this would change her relationship with her sister. She now says that her sister “didn’t mean anything” by what she did, and seems to be trying to blame me for being offended. I don't feel like we're more special than anyone else, but to receive this intense kind of love is a gift," Brian says. "Few human beings get to experience something at this level. And it's not a taboo. It's nothing wrong. This just feels like love, perfect love." That’s the best thing about little sisters: They spend so much time wishing they were elder sisters that in the end they’re far wiser than the elder ones could ever be.”—Gemma BurgessA sat waiting for a pizza one night as I watched my Stepsister cruise around the house for the past hour getting ready for a date. She was twenty and had been married for two years. A very sexy woman, just not the sharpest tool. Being eighteen, I was the asshole that always pointed it out. Growing up there were times when I was pretty mad at you, but now that we are grown up I can’t imagine what I would do without you. Thanks, Sis!”—Robert Rivers It was love at first sight, absolutely the craziest thing I have ever experienced," Melissa says. "The sexual force was like I was levitating off the earth. Your body instantly craves the other person." Sister is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship.”—Margaret Mead