Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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Out of nowhere, like a cool breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice, comes Byron Katie and The Work. This book is NOT for those who cannot self-analyze at all, or do not have the ability to challenge their way of thinking in insightful ways. So being an integrated, healthy or sane adult does not mean we just give up what we want because it would be "arguing with reality," as Katie reiterates many times. Numerous times I had to sit back and contemplate the book for a long long time before I felt prepared to continue. For nearly a decade she spiraled down into paranoia, rage, self-loathing, and constant thoughts of suicide; for the last two years she was often unable to leave her bedroom.

But as I got further into the book, and really started to grasp exactly what she was trying to say, and trying to get people to implement in their lives. It's also completely inappropriate to ask a woman to identify what "her part" was in the sexual abuse her stepfather committed on her when she was nine years old. At best, this is a gross oversimplification of real problems people face with solutions founded in anecdotal evidence and contradictory principles. He should stop blaming me TURNS INTO I should stop blaming him turns into I need me to accept him and his way of life TURNS INTO I need to accept myself and I need to accept my way of life! Often, these questions pop up in my daily trains of thought, and cause me to re examine what I held as truth.Each day, I am growing with my healthier beliefs as I keep a journal on everything I feel needs my attention.

So I didn't see this point being affirmed - that there is a necessity to seeking the wisdom to know the difference between what we truly can and cannot change. Katie details strategies for applying The Work to the negative thought patterns that develop in love, sex and relationships, health and death, parents and children, work, and money.

In that case, if they are in my life (and I in theirs) in that way, then the lines between "our business" may be more interdependent. Byron Katie has rocked my world and shaken loose my mind more thoroughly than any other spiritual teacher, living or dead. And to tell a victim to put herself into the abuser's shoes (how he must feel about himself) made me ill. How do you treat the person, the other people involved with the situation when you think the thought? Those who pin happiness and peace to other people or circumstances will struggle to resolve the chasm between their thoughts and reality.

However, if you are tired of reliving over and over pain and hurt, this book may offer profound relief and a new freedom from terminal thinking. I got some points as to what she was saying, especially when she talked about how you control your own thinking. People who have been practicing inquiry for a while often say, 'The Work is no longer something I do. Finally, The Work encourages you to craft one or more turnarounds to the original thought – an invitation to believe the opposite of what you once thought was true. But the way Katie speaks with him, she leads him to the conclusion that it is him that's being unreasonable or unaccepting because he's equally not accepting their nonacceptance of him essentially.The abridged version consists mostly of live clips of Katie doing "The Work" with others at public events. Drawing on her own experience of moving through suffering to freedom, Byron Katie developed 'The Work': a simple, four-step programme to help pinpoint the problems that are troubling you and how to tackle them effectively. Byron Katie, in A Mind at Home with Itself, beautifully and freshly expresses the essence of the Buddha-Dharma. Some aspects of the Turnaround have great application in the "beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye" kind of way. Un libro maravilloso que nos hace darnos cuenta cómo nos apegamos de nuestros pensamientos, creencias e historias que nos contamos una y otra vez, Byron Katie nos presenta "El Trabajo" , 4 sencillas preguntas que podemos hacernos cuando nuestra mente esta creyendo lo que nuestros pensamientos estan diciendo, nos recuerda que los pensamientos son como nubes en el cielo, que pasan y se van, cuando nos apegamos alguno de ellos es cuando sufrimos.

I first learned of this book from a smart, very successful woman who referenced it in a talk to 250 of my co-workers. She has shared The Work with millions of people at public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, V. You're deluding yourself with your own uninvestigated thoughts it's their fault I'm happy it's their fault I'm sad and this causes pain and confusion. I think perhaps the worst therapy transcription was between Katie and a woman who was raped as a child. She does tell a woman to figure out what part her nine year old self had in her own rape, what she did 'wrong'.While I can see how not getting upset might be helpful, the rest of the story is completely unhelpful and makes no sense. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. True nonattachment and acceptance fearlessly admits our humanity and vulnerability, which includes us having wishes that are not fulfilled or are frustrated. What if you could ask yourself powerful questions and trust that the process would lead you to inner peace and pain-free existence?