Don't Worry, Be Happy: A Child’s Guide to Dealing With Feeling Anxious

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In the late 20th century these pictures were dismissed by many in the social sciences and replaced with metaphors of information processing and rational consumption, metaphors which in turn reflected the preoccupations of their time. When Jonathan Haidt suggests that we now abandon these and return to the idea of elephant and rider as a template for the workings of the mind, it seems at first blush rather an unpromising start to a book purporting to tell us how to be happy. But unlike so many of the world's purveyors of self-help and lifestyle philosophy, not to mention its economists and computational psychologists, Haidt knows what he's talking about. Thanks to having taught psychology at the University of Virginia for 20 years he has a deep understanding of his subject. He adds to that the distinction of being broadly right.

Happiness like all things may be created and chosen; so, the first thing you need to do is commit to choosing happiness. But before that, you need to evaluate your barriers in the process. Your child will be guided, with the help of Fiz - a friendly and supportive character they can identify with - through fun and engaging activities which are interspersed with useful tips, inspirational statements and practical information for parents. About This Edition ISBN: Are you into too many things at a time? If yes, spread it out. You should not try to achieve too much too fast. But automatic processes have been around for millennia, giving them plenty of time to perfect themselves. Higher cortical functioning came on the scene only around 40,000 years or so ago, and is weak and buggy by comparison. This, Haidt points out, "helps to explain why we have inexpensive computers that can solve logic, maths and chess problems as well as any human can" but no robot that can walk in the woods as well as a six-year-old child.

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I will no longer allow the negative things in my life to spoil all of the good things I have. I choose to be HAPPY.” Does your child appear to worry a lot? Perhaps they have frequent tummy upsets, or are irritable, tearful, angry or withdrawn?

You need to make a plan where you do something small every day to build towards that dream life and know that when you get there. You may feel happier by doing this but remember, life is a journey and you have to appreciate the climb, not just the view from the top. So here we are: not charioteers in charge of wild horses, but a self-reflexive rider sitting atop a large and lumbering automatic elephant that has plenty of its own ideas on how to do things. What has this got to do with happiness?

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It took a few years of singing in an empty room before McFerrin felt comfortable singing in front of others, and a few years after that before he booked his first solo gig. His break arrived in 1981, after a performance at New York’s Kool Jazz Festival —“probably the only concert in America,” quipped the Washington Post, “that comes with a warning from the Surgeon General.” He performed alongside heavy hitters like Carmen McRae and Johnny Hartman for the showcase “The Art Of Jazz Singing.” The Times’ coverage noted that “[a]ll the singers are well established except Mr. McFerrin.” Nevertheless, his performance earned him a contract with Elektra Records, and he made his recording debut the next year, at the age of 32. Another big barrier in your happiness journey is an attitude that you may be having is holding on to “negativity”. You become a prisoner of your resentment if you don’t work towards overcoming it. As resentment or negativity erupts from all over – your thoughts, your surroundings, your workplace, your club, your friends, your social media…anywhere. But you need to hold on to the thought:

Do they have problems concentrating or show a loss of enthusiasm for their usual interests? These could all be signs that your child is struggling with anxiety.It doesn't help that, despite being big and lumbering and bent on being alpha animal, the elephant is also a total scaredy-cat. A "negativity bias" against strange people and new experiences is built into the actual structure of the brain (in the way the amygdala and thalamus are wired), but though this might be annoying, it does make sense: "If you were designing the mind of a fish, would you have it respond as strongly to opportunities as to threats?" Of course not. Miss a chance for a meal and the likelihood is that another one will be along in a while. Miss the sign of a nearby predator and it's game over. Aimed at children aged 7 – 11, it can be used independently or together with a parent or carer. It explains clearly and simply what anxiety is, what might cause it and, best of all, how you can find ways to manage and overcome it. For this it draws on proven cognitive behavioural therapy techniques, using simple activities that will help children now and possibly all through their lives. We all love the popular song by Bobby McFerrin titled “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.” It’s a great sentiment. If we could all stop worrying and choose to be happy, that would be wonderful, but for some people, it’s not as simple, as it sounds to be! There are circumstances, over which we have no control and are majorly responsible for our unhappiness. We can’t stop worrying about these. This is the real obstacle when situations or circumstances, lead to worry, negativity, and unhappiness. Most of us use these as justification. We want to be happy but something or the other thing in life makes us unhappy, frustrated, or negative. Thus, leaving very little choice to you to be happy.