The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Surivive and Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

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a b Klages, Wolfgang (1978). Der sensible Mensch: Psychologie, Psychopathologie, Therapie (The Sensitive Human: Psychology, Psychopathology, Therapy) (in German) (1ed.). Stuttgart, Germany: Enke. p.133. ISBN 978-3432898711. OCLC 6710563. Klages distinguishes between sensitive and highly sensitive people, classifying artists and "high intellectuals" as an example of the latter. a b Pluess, Michael; Belsky, Jay (2013). "Vantage Sensitivity: Individual Differences in Response to Positive Experiences" (PDF). Psychological Bulletin. 139 (4): 901–916. doi: 10.1037/a0030196. PMID 23025924. Archived (PDF) from the original on January 26, 2016. p.184 – Soothe switches on naturally when there is no threat to defend against and no goal to chase. Others have called it the “rest and digest” system, because once in Soothe mode, we feel calm, content, and comforted. […] Soothe allows us to relax, slow down, and enjoy what we’re doing in the present moment. You might use Soothe when you savor your morning coffee, get a massage, or mindfully appreciate the fresh blossoms in your garden. […] When you feel safe, happy, secure, cared for, and calm, you’ve entered Soothe mode. […] Learning to activate it regularly is a game-changer for sensitive people. Todd, R. M.; Ehlers, M. R.; Muller, D. J.; Robertson, A.; Palombo, D. J.; Freeman, N.; Levine, B.; Anderson, A. K. (2015). "Neurogenetic Variations in Norepinephrine Availability Enhance Perceptual Vividness". The Journal of Neuroscience. 35 (16): 6506–6516. doi: 10.1523/JNEUROSCI.4489-14.2015. PMC 6605217. PMID 25904801. ● Castillo, Stephanie (May 8, 2015). "The Highly Sensitive Person: Emotional Sensitivity May Stem From A Person's Genes, Enhancing The Way They See The World". Medical Daily (IBT Media). Archived from the original on May 11, 2015.

People identify to varying degrees and for some, it’s simply the most available term. “I didn’t know it was A Thing. Creative people are just more porous. HSP sounds better,” muses bestselling author Jojo Moyes. “It’s helpful not to feel like a weirdo because I worry about the last baked bean left on my plate.” I hear this exact metaphor used in the pub, by someone who hasn’t read the books. Other people I know are also well aware of their powers. “We’re called hispies in the community,” Ella informs me. Ella has a diverse social circle and always seems to be on a boat, surrounded by male models, even though she works in publishing. “You could have this lifestyle if you were an empath like me,” she writes. I tell her I am an empath and her remark has deeply wounded me. “I’m an empath and your remark has deeply wounded me,” she replies. Touché. Sorry, but I don't think highly sensitive introverts are all in one political box, nor do I think all those who are not sensitive to outside stimuli, or enjoy it, are all evil, uncaring, unfeeling people.Per Boterberg et al. (2016), a "theoretical redefinition" by E. Aron, Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person (2010): "DOES" acronym: Depth of processing, Overstimulation, Emotional intensity, Sensory sensitivity. You are deeply moved by music, poetry, artwork, novels, movies, TV shows, and plays – or a nicely decorated room or a striking scene in nature.

I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs. Darcy (modernmrsdarcy.com) recommended it for those of us who would consider ourselves more sensitive than the average person. I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it. As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention. I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive. p.226 – The Brain-Changing Power of Compassion – Whereas empathy involves mirroring the emotional state of someone else, experiencing it with them, compassion involves a response of concern, caring, or warmth. Compassion also implies action and a desire to help.

From "Adult shyness: ..." (2005): SPS doesn't inherently possess shyness' fear of negative social evaluations.

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Here are some of the things that sensitive people report as being challenging in their marriage and friendships: While it is wise to accept what we cannot change about ourselves, it is also good to remember that we are never too old to replace discouragement with bits and pieces of confidence and hope.” – Elaine N.Aron, PhD, The Highly Sensitive P Elaine Aron has a doctoral degree in clinical psychology and a thriving psychotherapy practice. She is the first therapist to tell HSPs how to identify their trait and make the most of it in everyday situations. An HSP herself, Aron reassures others that they are quite normal. Their trait is not a flaw or a syndrome, nor is it a reason to brag. It is an asset they can learn to use and protect.