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I have the right to laugh, to play, to have fun, and the freedom to celebrate this life, right here, right now. By practicing ACA outside of meetings, we can avoid recreating our family of origin at work. We can avoid being a victim, a hero, or the invisible employee who is rarely noticed and passed over for pay raises. Without working our program, we can easily take the patterns and roles we learned at home and apply them in the workplace. We risk taking our parental programming and our false attitudes about ourselves into our working life. Even if we don’t work full-time, looking at ACA traits in the workplace can help improve our interaction in other groups or social settings. We may work part-time or have a position in a volunteer, charitable, or worship group. We may be retired and be part of a recreational group. The personality types that can be difficult for us will likely show up whenever and wherever we interact with others on a regular basis. This chapter on ACA experience in the workplace will help us focus on our program and improve our behavior in relationships wherever we go. Without ACA we remain in destructive or loveless relationships because we fear abandonment. The term “adult child” means that we respond to adult interactions with the fear and self-doubt learned as children. This undercurrent of hidden fear can sabotage our choices and relationships. We can appear outwardly confident while living with a constant question of our worth. Whatever our path, we found no lasting help until we found ACA. I used to soothe myself by lengthy scrolling through the news and social media on my phone. If I could gather enough information on what was happening in the world before getting out of bed, perhaps I could side-step the day’s dangers ahead. While I did end up being well-informed, this pastime didn’t soothe the little child within, the one who really needed soothing.

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Since each meeting is autonomous, and each meeting is a different experience, we recommend that you try as many different ones as possible before deciding if the ACA program can be helpful to you in your journey from discovery to recovery. We approach prayer and meditation in different ways … Some commune with nature and the outdoors; some say words like ‘serenity’ and ‘love’ to feel quiet within; some use affirmations to bring their higher power into their thoughts; some kneel in quiet repose; some sit and breathe deeply; and some use self-talk to connect with themselves and their higher power. Chapter 7 Study: introduces ACA newcomers to the ACA Steps and is a renewal for the experienced member to the Steps, and their various adaptations, have brought sure hope and a better way of life to those who desire change. In ACA, the Twelve Steps also bring recovery to our members who were not raised with addiction in the home. Our experience shows that these ACA members internalized the same abandonment and shame as children brought up in alcoholism or other addictions. The ACA Twelve Traditions provide guidelines for group conduct just as the ACA Steps provide guidelines for individual recovery.

Most Fellow World Travelers meetings are audio only, please do not use the video function, unless it is written at the meeting information. In this time of uncertainty, reparenting can help us be in the solution of becoming our own loving parent. This is an important step for us as we develop our own identity that is different than our dysfunctional family role. The roles are family hero, scapegoat, lost child, or some other role. With The Solution, we are on our own, but we are not alone as we were when we were children. We have our ACA group, the fellowship, and a Higher Power to rely upon. With help and support, we learn what it means to be a Loving Parent to ourselves. The Traditions offer wisdom on being self-supporting as a fellowship and on avoiding promotion when attracting new members. With the Twelve Traditions, we sustain ACA groups that allow the ACA Solution of reparenting one’s self to emerge and thrive. The Twelve Traditions can be found in Chapter Nineteen of the Fellowship Text also known as the Big Red Book or BRB.

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Most FWT Zoom meetings are audio only, we do not use the video function. Group chat is available at the end of each meeting. While the inner circle relates to behaviors which keep us in permanent isolation and fantasy, the outer circle refers to behaviors which help us move out into the real world.” Switches every week between the Laundry List Workbook or Big Red Book Chapter 19 Study -“ACA 12 Traditions”. While becoming our own Loving Parent is at the core of healing from a neglectful childhood, it is also the gateway to the child within. In addition to the ACA Twelve Steps, this is The ACA Solution. By reparenting ourselves with gentleness, humour, love and respect, we find our child within and true connection to a Higher Power. Chapter 22, Reparenting as a Way of Life, concludes the book with an example of how to approach reparenting as a way of life.

Please always ask the chair or host first if you can use your video. Meeting Time shows CEST (Central European Summer Time) Please note that you may not gain entry to this meeting if trying to join more than ten minutes late. Parenting ourselves as children and reparenting ourselves as adults has important distinctions. We were alone as children, and we were forced to grow up too soon. We are not alone as we reparent ourselves in ACA. Through recovery, we use reparenting to connect with ourselves and others in a healthy manner. Reparenting also gives us a chance to reclaim our childhood years in a more supportive light. We can use reparenting to salvage our displaced childhood years. We can reclaim and restage those childhood years. We do not fictionalize our childhood, but we take the time to see how vulnerable, courageous, and loving we were as children. We can give ourselves the care we gave others. This is how we go forward in life by knowing where we came from and how we survived to get here. Reparenting ourselves can mean many things, but the central theme is that we are willing to challenge our critical, inner voice and to care for the child within. By reparenting ourselves, we lose interest in harming ourselves with addictions and compulsions. We remind ourselves that we have worth. We do this as often as it takes without thought of the repetition or how it might sound to another person. This guide includes many fellowship shares about reparenting and inner child work. To help you integrate reparenting into your daily life, the guide also includes: