What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

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Adornments and artifacts on the arms: Interestingly enough, Joe Navarro says that adornments and tattoos on the arm do communicate about us, and until tattoos will become fully acceptable he recommends avoiding them since surveys show people perceive people with tattoos as low status. When we feel threatened, our bodies may respond with the “fight, flight, or freeze” response. This is an evolutionary response that helps us survive in dangerous situations. StoryShot #4: We Take Up Space When We are Confident, and We Make Ourselves Small When We are Insecure It is estimated that humans are capable of more than ten thousand different facial expressions (Ekman, 2003, 14–15).”

With practice, you can use nonverbal communication to improve your interactions with others. Now you can see what every body is saying!

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Its language is easy to understand. Very informative regarding body language n nonverbal communication skills. In short, I liked it very much. It’s worth reading.” Sanskriti Kaura The 17 year old who feels misunderstood by his friends, the 37 year old, who makes her money mostly from communicating with people and building relationships, and anyone who doesn’t know what their F4 key does on the keyboard. Dominant pose: Spreading your arm while leaning on a desk or placing your arm around a chair nearby is a major territorial display of authority. Similarly, people who want to claim territory will spread their stuff wide on a table. If the editor had cut out most of the redundant passages and "foreshadowing". The introduction seemed so long, I kept wondering if the book would ever get to the point instead of promising to do this and that. There were also quite a few examples that were repeated (along with the accompanying pictures).

The wrong idea that many have is that any sign of nervousness is a sign of lying. It’s not. People can be nervous independently of lies.

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Absolutely dreadful. This book is only useful to someone who has no ability to recognize social cues whatsoever. Most of the information provided is simply common sense. To top that off, when talking about certain actions, the author tries to explain them in detail but fails miserably. Surely there must have been someone in the editorial process that suggested adding a few images to help make it clearer.

Nonverbal behaviors comprise approximately 60 to 65 percent of all interpersonal communication and, during lovemaking, can constitute 100 percent of communication between partners. We are constantly communicating through our body language, even when we are not aware of it. Our body language can reveal our true feelings and intentions. StoryShot #2: Our Bodies React to Different Situations with Fight, Flight, or Freeze Responses Clasping of the knees and shifting of weight on the feet is an intention cue that the person wants to get up and leave. For example, if you see a person crossing their arms and legs while talking to you, they may be feeling uncomfortable or defensive. But if you are in a cold room and are rubbing their arms, they may simply be trying to warm up. Don’t look down. Do you know what F8 does on your keyboard? No worries, no one does 🙂 But that’s what I’m talking about.Weak shoulder displays: Shoulders coming up towards the head -the turtle pose- is a strong sign of major discomfort in the situation. The players of a losing team will do it, or the employees about to report on their accomplishments who haven’t had many accomplishments. 5. Nonverbals of the Arms Tongue displays: Often a pacifying sign. Tong jutting between the teeth without touching the lips is used when someone got caught for doing something they weren’t supposed to do or when they got away with something.

This zone is for interactions with close friends, family, and acquaintances. We usually allow people in this zone when we are shaking hands, talking, or standing close together. Social Zone Eye-blink / eye-flutter behavior: Joe Navarro says that Eyelid flutter indicates an internal struggle either with our performance or with the person or environment around us. It cannot be a good indicator of lying though because any stressful situation can cause the bling rate to increase. Having conducted thousands of interviews for the FBI, I learned to concentrate on the suspect’s feet and legs first, moving upward in my observations until I read the face last. When it comes to honesty, truthfulness decreases as we move from the feet to the head. Gravity-defying behaviors: Similar to Happy Feet, they indicate happiness or excitement. One foot pointing upwards is an example. When it’s the heel to be lifted it’s a “starter’s position” and it may indicate interest as well as readiness to go. Not only do we lean away from people who make us uncomfortable, we may also blade away (turn slightly) by degrees from that which does not appeal to us or we grow to dislike.

That being said, I thought the content was very interesting and useful in both a business and personal context. A brief touch of the eyes during a conversation may give you a clue to a person’s negative perception of what is being discussed. Mirroring is when we unconsciously match the person’s body language we are talking to. This may involve matching their posture, gestures, or facial expressions. Learn Baseline Behavior: Baseline behavior is how people normally look, sit, move and behave. Once you know the baseline comfortable behavior, you will recognize when they’re not comfortable. Body language is great to spot how a person is feeling, or a disconnection between words and nonverbal signs.