Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

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I read it on a friend's recommendation and out of curiosity. While a very few points are insightful, most of the book is incredibly offensive and belittling of women. I cannot believe the chapter, "Why Men Cheat." He's basically saying, men cheat because they can and it's probably the woman's fault. He's constantly contradicting himself. At some points in the book he emphasizes the need to be straightforward, but then there's a whole section where he's giving advice about how I you should twist your words in such a way as to be "gentle" so that a man doesn't feel less like a man. Providing is not only monetary, but it’s also about helping to fix things, moving stuff, or solving problems.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Lord brought me in on title, blurb, and general interest thanks to an affinity for Downton Abbey, Evie Dunmore's Rogue series, and Victorian England itself. Lady Petra Forsyth is a charming woman born in the wrong time - I would love to get into a drunk conversation with her about falling the patriarchy at a bar these days - and dealing with society that doesn't like her saying "I'm going to be alone forever, deal with it!" after the untimely death of her fiancé. Petra's got the support of her dad, her friends, and her staff and, really, that's all that should matter. Just kidding, it's the 1800s. With translations in more than thirty languages, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the definitive relationship guide for women. However, there are a few fundamental lady rules (perfectly fitting for men too) I recommend memorizing.

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Most sexual relationships don’t last forever, whether you slept with him after 900 days or 900 seconds. Mr. Harvey gives a brief insight into his own life at the beginning of each chapter, then delves into the topics that range from:

Taking care of your own well-being is just as important because if you forget to help yourself, you won’t be able to help others. It is sexist, misogynistic crap. And honestly, men should be livid that people like Steve are out there saying that men are basically egotistical walking impulses with no discretion, no thoughts, no nurturing instincts, minimal care for their partner's hopes and dreams and needs unless that partner makes his life perfect and easy, and of very little value except for what he brings home and what he can do in bed. They don’t want independent women or women who seek power in their relationship. So cut out nasty power games: The British School Of Etiquette defines etiquette as an “unwritten code of behaviors, designed to ease social interactions in both our personal and business lives”.When women don’t act like ladies and encourage one another to cultivate their own feminine excellence, societies can fall. Strong mothers who might have learned to resolve a chaotic home life are instead drinking to handle the stress because, hey, who needs to be dignified? This is also the third or so book in a row that’s highlighted issues with the heavy-handed patriarchy and women who have had to navigate it. This is a good trend, in my opinion. However, it’s possibly the best thing I can say about this novel. This one is a little off-topic but, if you love wearing dresses and skirts, this is how you’re supposed to get in and out of the car without flashing everyone with your underwear ( if you’re wearing any, of course!!).

Act is a fun, historical-feminist-mystery thriller starring proclaimed to remain unmarried Lady Petra Forsyth. I love her. She is witty, headstrong, determined, and kind. There is something amiss when one of her lady friends is allegedly deceased but Lady P was never told. Then, a servant makes mention of seeing her friend alive and recently! A series of mysteries, actions, and a truly vile villain make up the remainder of this novel and guys, I was HOOKED. CGD gives you 5 etiquette rules that still apply today. And you really don’t have to be born with the silver spoon in your mouth to be able to practice these. 1. Watch your languageI felt exhausted when I finished the book, like I had just worked a day on the assembly line, but instead of inspecting auto parts, I was inspecting the infinite regressive thoughts cranking out of Steve Harvey’s brain. Relationships are always going to be work, but Harvey paints a world where all that work has to fall onto women. Though it was only released 12 years ago, Act Like A Lady has already aged badly. It never really held up in the first place. You don’t need to be a self-professed expert to know that relationships are about listening to one another instead of playing weird mind games. There is no magical number of days to withhold sex or certain way of dressing to make a man fall in love with you. The systemic causes of inequality that can make a man unemployed or underpaid do not suddenly deem him unable to give or receive love (and we know this mindset increasingly leads to violence, lest I have to recap the plot of Joker [2019] to you). Also, shouldn’t relationships be fun? Isn’t a key piece to a long, happy relationship that you laugh together and do things you both enjoy? All of these rules are so transactional and boring!!! You can always learn more and benefit from a helpful set of decisions that make your life easier (etiquette books work great for that).

Steve Harvey can't count the number of impressive women he's met over the years—the many incredible women who can run a business, have three kids, maintain a household in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So, when it comes to relationships, why can't these same women figure out what makes men commit? According to Steve, it's because they're asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In this expanded edition, Steve includes an added section of all new advice, with tips on dealing with your partner's exes, spicing up your relationship, ensuring you're ready for that walk down the aisle, and much more.

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A man must achieve a minimum in those three areas to feel like he is fulfilling his duties as a man.