Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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In my opinion, the book could've been much stronger if the author had taken more time with the book. She notes multiple relationships throughout the book, both in the distant and recent past, as well as current relationships, that made me question repeatedly how she even let this person become so close to her in the first place or when they began to exhibit problem behaviors, why she didn't take a step back sooner. Good Boundaries and Goodbyes explores how people can have healthier relationships by establishing relational boundaries with their partners, family, and friends.

With this latest release being about boundaries, I knew I better read (and study) this book as well! Or, I've tried everything to fix this relationship but nothing is working—I fear I'm becoming someone I don't even like? PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. I thought a book like that might apply to a current difficult relationship for which I was seeking .even though i didn't relate to all of the situations she was talking about, there was still so much to take from this.

Christians should read it with a strong commitment to their marriage, especially if they are in crisis. Her main message is that proper boundaries help a person discern whether a relationship is helpful or harmful - if harmful, she then discusses the importance of letting go.and said that when someone violates her boundaries, she can act "in opposite ways of the woman I really am. With Lysa and the lords help, you can learn about biblical boundaries and see where boundaries in your own life may be beneficial. If we want to be a good spouse, friend, co-worker, daughter, sister, or neighbor, it’s not by being another person’s savior. By reframing boundaries from something that can feel limiting to something that is truly loving, this book equips us to navigate relationships in a loving, healthy, and God-honoring way. Terkeurst does suggest that a person leave those who refuse to respect their boundaries, but this is a last resort.

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is not the kind of book one necessarily goes out of their way to read for entertainment or enjoyment. I appreciated the premise of this book, which was the importance of having good boundaries set in relationships, including in a Christian context. Recognize when relationships become destructive and unsalvageable, allowing yourself to part ways without undue guilt. If you have well meaning, loving people in your life that are trying to point out how a boundary you set might be an overreaction or not appropriate for the situation, might it be a good idea to consider what they have to say instead of assuming they're the problem? So many good nuggets and quotes that I really needed to hear and I'm sure I will again in the future.If you have dealt with or are dealing with difficult relationships due to co-dependency or the tendency to "rescue" others, or for any other reason, let this book be a blessing to you as well. Lysa's personal writing style and insight, won through many hard-fought battles she shares as illustrations, make it seem as if she is writing from the heart of the reader. But overall, she encourages her readers to see worth in themselves and to fight for their relationships in healthy ways. Many times while reading this book I felt like the author was speaking directly to me and was able to express in words exactly how I was feeling. If you ever feel as though you're stuck between being taken advantage of by those you love most or shutting others out to avoid being hurt, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes will provide both the practical and biblical guidance you need to operate in the most loving place, with healthy boundaries instead of either extreme.