The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Third Edition

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She said she would love to attend the public school in their neighborhood where she had a few friends. Highly recommend both this book and her sons book which includes the same title but prefaced with The True. This all happens via illusions towards your childhood and not dealing with the truth and most importantly not mourning the loss. He seems to be gifted for everything: he observes the moon and the clouds, extemporizes for long periods on the harmonium, draws wonderful pictures with pencil or pen, can sing quite well when he wants to, and is never at a loss for a rhyme.

For women who had no independent income, no vote, no say in governance, and who could lose all custody of their children if they left an abusive husband, a primary way to try to keep their children safe from violence was to try to keep their husbands out of taverns. if a child is lucky enough to grow up with a mirroring, available mother who is at the child's disposal -- that is, a mother who allows herself to be used as a function of the child's development -- then a healthy self-feeling can gradually develop in the growing child. Katherine’s father had expressed sympathy for his daughter’s isolation, but when his wife started to protest a change of schools, he remained silent.

The child becomes molded into what the parents want them to be, rather than accepting the child for who he or she is. She points out in one of her examples how it can be an easy way to track therapy progress as the patient’s dreams change and evolve.

Couldn’t Katherine take enrichment classes that would supplement her academic work at a public school? Miller does make some generalizations in The Drama of the Gifted Child, as I doubt all feminist women with piercings or angry male politicians faced childhood abuse. What she does is reduce the complexities of children's emotions and the ambivalence of parents to a simple fairytale of good and evil," she says. The first step is to understand that it is possible to get over a difficult, emotion-suppressed past.This also allows us to break free from maladaptive generational cycles of behavior and hold space and unconditional love for our own children. Yet, the main argument (how we learn to suppress feeling and expressing emotion because of our parents' parenting) is worth a look. Miller references Ingmar Bergman who described in great detail the violent abuse his brother faced at his father's hands, but had no recollection of any mistreatment to himself. The book is however a great encouragement and at the same time through stories and examples gives an understanding of where to look and clues to some of the behaviors that previously were simply confusing and puzzling.