window, document, "script", "https://95662602.adoric-om.com/adoric.js", "Adoric_Script", "adoric","9cc40a7455aa779b8031bd738f77ccf1", "data-key"); Propulsive and unforgettable, Julia's story is the journey from the world of 'no' to the world of 'yes'. She is an inspiration for women everywhere to find their freedom, their purpose and their voice.

It was truly not until I left my community that I figured out who I was, what I wanted from life, and to be here now, working family together, in the 21st century. I mean, wow, we have come a really long way,” Haart says. Where is there to go for Season 2? All of that is noble. The problem is that Julia appears to be enmeshed with her children. She does not respect their ability to make their own choices or honor their boundaries. Instead, she involves themselves with their lives- in ways that are unhealthy. This is demonstrated many times in the show ‘My Unorthodox Life.’ It’s also demonstrated in this memoir. So Julia created a double life. When no one was looking, she'd sneak looks at fashion magazines and sketch designs for the clothes she dreamed about wearing in the world beyond her Orthodox suburb. In the ultra-Orthodox world, clothing has one purpose: to cover the body from head to toe. Giving any thought to your appearance beyond that is considered sinful, an affront to God. She started clandestinely selling life insurance to save her 'freedom' money. At the age of 42, she finally mustered the courage to leave. Ever since she was a child, every aspect of Julia Haart's life--what she wore, what she ate, what she thought--was controlled by the dictates of ultra-orthodox Judaism. At nineteen, after a lifetime spent caring for her seven younger siblings, she was married off to a man she barely knew. For the next twenty-three years, he would rule her life. Eventually, when Julia's youngest daughter Miriam started to question why she wasn't allowed to sing, run, or ride a bike, Julia reached a breaking point. She knew that if she didn't find a way to leave, her daughters would be forced into the same unending servitude that had imprisoned her. Watching ‘My Unorthodox Life’& it hits close to home. It’s a lovely thing when you can relate to other Abrahamic women— R (@rvhimasaad) August 6, 2021Not being Jewish much of the terminology was lost on me but not the understanding what a ridiculous existence it is to devote oneself and others around you to scriptures written in a time that no longer exists.

In the later parts of the book, everyone is trying to sleep with Julia or is obsessed with her and it just sounds like a lot. Also all her poor money decisions really stress me out. Like she did all that reading of secular literature, but never read a book on how to do payroll?

She also occasionally slipped into "yeshivish". In one sentence, she might refer to Esau and Jacob (the accepted English translation), and in the next; she writes the Hebrew-transliterated name Moshe. But, I also shook my head when I read her story about her friend who "came down with Leukemia"... or when she Yinglishly wrote "tzeddekesses" as the plural of "tzaddekes" (the proper Hebrew conjugation for 'righteous woman' would be "tzidkaniyot".) But, Fleksher added, many Orthodoxwomen pursue their goals, including higher education and powerful careers. "Please don't speak for all of us and paint those broad brushstrokes. This isn't orthodoxy." Julia Haart is a hustler. Her story is an inspiring, believe-in-your-dreams, never-give-up, anything-in-life-is-possible story of hope. She is a very smart businesswoman who also loves women! Run, don’t walk, to get this book!” —Lisa Rinna

The inherent message of this story is that a woman should let herself go in rags, almost starve, and sacrifice her own happiness and well-being in the service of her husband, so that he can become a great Torah scholar. Not that the woman herself has the capacity to become a great Torah scholar. Not that he can achieve her own greatness. It is only greatness by proxy. You’re the doormat that the great man gets to stand on, and the more you can remove any concept of self- the more you can make yourself nothing more than a receptacle- the better a woman you are. That was the role model that girls ingested from the moment they were old enough to understand a story. There were thousands of stories like this that every girl was taught, over and over, throughout their lives. That route was the only route to goodness, to success as a human being for a woman. She could never hope to achieve personal goals or greatness. She could never have the throne. She had to be the one to clean the throne and prepare the throne and be the step stool for her husband. That was what they inculcated their daughters with. A constant barrage of brainwashing. It works incredibly well.

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While I found the book interesting and engaging (though parts are very very cringey), I thought it was very poorly edited. I found this glaringly obvious in a number of ways. Season two will feature more fashion, family, female empowerment, faith, fabulousness, and of course, Haart,” the Netflix release said. When we see stereotypes and misinformation that is concerning to us as a community. we feel misrepresented," Fleksher said. "We want to stand up for our stories."