I have the right to a spiritually, physically, and emotionally healthier existence, though it may deviate entirely or in part from my parents' way of life. We learned that our family of origin issues and failed relationships didn't happen overnight. We don't need to read every self-help book this week or hand the Laundry List to everybody we know. If we really want to trust that the program is going to work for us, we learn to follow in the footsteps of those who came before us - to slow down and "Take It Easy." ACA Twelve Traditions Study: Our experience shows that ACA groups are strengthened when their members read and discuss the Twelve Traditions. It is commonly believed that the ACA Twelve Steps provide direction for the individual member, while the Twelve ACA Traditions provide comparable guidance to ACA groups and the service structure. The ACA Traditions outline fellowship unity, group autonomy, and the ultimate authority of ACA – a loving God – as expressed in our group conscience.

Strengthening My Recovery – Daily Meditation - Adult Children

I” statements build my self respect while offering others a true opportunity to have a real relationship with me. ACA is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition support group focused on understanding the specific behavior and attitude patterns we developed while growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional environment. These patterns continue to affect us today. I’ve been heard to say, “I’m ready to dig in and fight the addict!” My sponsor smiles and gently ushers me toward letting go instead of fighting. Have I ever won a fight with the addict? Instead, I use the love of my group, my Higher Power, and my sponsor to gently shine a light so bright that there are no shadows. This is one way I become open and allow the scattered fragments of my being to unite. The Traditions offer wisdom on being self-supporting as a fellowship and on avoiding promotion when attracting new members. With the Twelve Traditions, we sustain ACA groups that allow the ACA Solution of reparenting one’s self to emerge and thrive. The Twelve Traditions can be found in Chapter Nineteen of the Fellowship Text also known as the Big Red Book or BRB.

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Beginners meeting: Family dysfunction is a disease that affects everyone in the family. Taking a drink is not necessary to be affected. This is an ACA axiom, and it serves as a basis for our First Step. The effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family force us to develop survival traits that are known as The Laundry List (Problem). Since the disease of family dysfunction is generational, these traits also represent the internalization of our parents’ behavior. As much as we would like to deny it, we have become our parents. If we have succeeded in acting differently than them, we still passed on unwanted traits handed off to us by our parents. We unknowingly passed them on to our children. We are asked to let go of our struggle to control, and to turn to God, as we understand God, for our direction. I have the right to determine and honor my own priorities and goals, and to leave others to do the same. You will be surprised how different it feels and how much more you and others get out of your share. It may feel uncomfortable at first. That’s because you are casting off your protective shield and revealing the real you. Remember: Most FWT Zoom meetings are audio only, we do not use the video function. Group chat is available at the end of each meeting.

ACA Daily Meditation – ACA UK

It can even be an attempt to subconsciously control others or place responsibility outside of oneself. Example: “When you get abused, it hurts you.” Change this to: “When I got abused, it hurt me.” Sharing in the first person promotes self responsibility by divulging information only about yourself. When you are tempted to use the generic “you,” “we,” etc., try to catch yourself and replace i with “I.”Loving Parent ➢ The Inner Child – True Self ➢ Tools and Techniques for Connecting with Our Inner Child ➢ Identify Our Critical Parent ➢ ACA Experience: Loving Parent and Inner Child ➢ What is a Loving Parent? ➢ What is an Inner Child? ➢ How Does the Inner Child Connect with a Higher Power? ➢ How Many Inner Children Do You Have? ➢ How Did You Meet Your Inner Child? ➢ What Happened When You Meet Your Inner Child? ➢ How Does Your Inner Child Sabotage You? ➢ How Do I Build Trust with my Inner Child? ➢ How Do I Help my Inner Child Build Self-Esteem? ➢ How I Validate My Inner Child ➢ How I Negotiate With My Inner Child ➢ How I Celebrate My Inner Child ➢ Integrating My Inner Child With My Adult The ACA Twelve Traditions provide guidelines for group conduct just as the ACA Steps provide guidelines for individual recovery. Noon CEST Self-Love with readings from chapter 15 Beyond Survival: Practicing Self-Love, Strengthening My Recovery and other approved ACA literature ) Laundry List trait 5: We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.