In Chapter 3, Whelan makes much of a Californian law, passed in 2014, which, according to her, defines all sexual intercourse as rape unless the other person has specifically verbalised their agreement before the event. ‘This means,’ she states, ‘that, legally, someone who has not acquired affirmative consent – that is got the other person to say, ‘Yes, I’m into this’, out loud, before any action – is a potential rapist’ (p. 65). In fact, the reality is far from this absurd caricature. The law in question (Senate Bill No. 967, chapter 748) requires the governing boards of all state-funded universities and colleges to adopt, in their policies concerning sexual assault, a standard of affirmative consent, defined as being ‘conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity’ which ‘must be ongoing throughout a sexual activity and can be revoked at any time’. This does not, as Whelan might have us believe, mean that the other party to the activity must be repeatedly calling out ‘yes’ throughout the encounter (though wouldn’t it be nice if that were always so!). It is clear that affirmative consent can be indicated either by words or by actions: see for example the similar law adopted by New York State in 2015 which specifies that affirmative consent ‘can be given by words or actions, as long as those words or actions create clear permission regarding willingness to engage in the sexual activity.’ Does Whelan really have a problem with university authorities treating as rape an act of intercourse during which one party offered no indication whatsoever, by either sounds or movements, that she was a willing participant in what was going on?

Paranoia lernte ich hier viel Neues. Die Geschichten gehen einem nah, auch wenn man selbst nicht von allen Problemen betroffen ist. Da war auch eine Mutter, deren Sohn es nicht geschafft hat und sie den Fehler bei sich suchte. Da kann das Herz kaum kalt bleiben. Definately worth it if you want to learn about life, and though I am a man, I could definately identify with all the people and situations. Maxine not only introduces us to seven women from various walks of life – each with their own emotional battles, past wounds and life challenges, but also offers insights to her own involvement in their therapeutic interactions. Women get pregnant, men don’t. Most of the sex differences in human mating strategies emerge, directly or indirectly, from that basic fact." You said yourself you were offended by his wording when he talked about the average males and females, but it’s true.In What Women Want, the author – Maxine, a well-known psychoanalytic psychotherapist shares her journey of therapy with several women, enlightening us with her findings, experience and anecdotes based on their true life events. Her objective is to explore and understand their deepest desires, while she helps them to heal and find their identities.

What's on the inside is very important, but your traits are judged based solely on your observable behaviour. zaburzeniaodżywiania#przemocekonomiczna,psychiczna#toksycznamiłość#rozbitarodzina#zdrada#rasizm#LGBT#przemocdomowa#trauma#trudnedzieciństwo#dojrzewanie#dorastanie Active listening is great, and validation is good too, but the fastest way to get put in the friend zone is to blindly agree with everything a woman says—that’s too much tender and not enough defender. No one likes a yes-man, and women find them especially unattractive...Any experienced woman knows that men won’t agree with everything she says or does. The question she is asking herself is not 'does he agree with my thoughts on everything,' but instead 'how does he respond when we don’t agree?' Everything you say will be interpreted as an insight into your character and values."

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What does a woman want?” The question famously posed by Sigmund Freud has always puzzled author and psychotherapist Maxine Mei-Fung Chung. Based on the experiences of seven very different women who came to her for help, this is her attempt to answer the question. I realize that I'm female, and thus not the target audience for this book. But wow, if you follow the advice in here, you will get laid. I really want to buy this book for a couple of clueless male friends who complain often about dating, but they'd probably be insulted.