He also added a couple of extra details, such as that the conversation in the pub had been mainly about practical experiments with Abramelin and suchlike; and that more than one of them had had a go at the ‘lock-picking’, but only one had had been able to make it work. We could perhaps argue a bit about how the nerves were triggered in a reflex-type response, and the ways in which psychology can impact on those processes, but otherwise that was that. We’ve touched on it a bit, which is that I truly believe that those of us who, look over at someone and say, wow, how did they do that? And Reality Department, too, has an, uh, interesting habit of bending our reality for all of us, anyway, whether we like it or not. Allison: You talk about creating one’s own playbook to collapse time and achieve unreasonable success.

In fact it’s actually the only place where we can get new ideas, new information, new anything: and too much ‘need’ for certainty, for ‘control’, for assurance that we already have ‘the truth’ – actively blocks us from going there. Jen is long since dead, sadly, but Cassie’s still around – in fact she lives not that far from here, now – and even corrected some of the details for me when we last met. The book really goes through how do you begin to release contraction so that you can make expansion your default state.It needs to be hard and almost kind of boring and the harder it is, the more justified we feel to make money doing it.

A member of our small party of travellers had left his bags in the studio reception area, and needed to pick them up before moving off homeward.And it matters to the discipline of enterprise-architecture itself, in essence for exactly the same reasons. Yet when people think it is science – or that their version of it is ‘science’, anyway – that’s when we get all of those, uh, joyous fights and feuds about EA, on LinkedIn and the like. That anxiety and stress is often tied on the other end and this might sound like therapy, but it’s often tied to a prior moment in time where might have reminded them of being bullied or taking taken advantage of or just having a situation not go their way they want, and that can trigger some trauma from the past. And it could be something as simple as OK, let’s just take a very human example, say, I learned that my friend drinks green juice every day. Well, it supports my business and my business, allows me to give my guests to the planet, and that’s high impact.

What I found is that the more wound up our nervous system is, the harder it is for us to sit in any uncertainty. In practice, I could have used almost anything for this, and, as long as the purported ‘facts’ were different from your beliefs, the effective result – the response – would have been almost exactly the same. There are quite likely to be some associated decisions about the competence or otherwise of the messenger for that message – in other words, me. Allison: You talk a lot about why the future belongs to the emotional intelligence and then the importance of mastering unpleasant emotions.One thing that I would say is, you can make it 2 by 2 where you just have the columns, the things that I love things that I don’t love and then things that I am good at and then things that I’m not good at is your rows, and then just categorizing every activity that you do day to day with your job into one of those boxes and ideally, you’re in the quadrant of things that I love and things that I’m really good at. If one of your values is I want to make an impact in the world, then you can say, OK, how does pay my bills help me make an impact? Victoria showed me that my mind can only take me so far and gave me the tools to access resources I didn’t even know I had. I like to kick these off with a quick deliberate conversation, what would be your number one leadership tip for our listeners? Can help you get that energy and feel expanded by the activity versus again, like feeling, why do I have to do this?

She exchanged a glance with Cassie, kinda like she was getting confirmation that it was safe to go further. One of the more accessible – and certainly eye-opening, if in a carefully metaphoric sense – of the Chaos Magic texts is ‘Ramsey Dukes’, SSOTBME: again, recommended, though perhaps only if you’re willing to accept the ‘occasional forays into the overly implausible’ (as was once said about one of my own books!I have long thought that you couldn’t sell EA to people who require a measurable cost/benefit ratio to be proven to them before they will consider it. You will learn how to: * Bend reality by mastering two states of being that most people aren't even aware of. But this had not occurred … Neither had I been hypnotised, and so persuaded that the door had been opened by an invisible agency: that would not have got me past the door, and it would not have explained the bewilderment of the security guard when he finally arrived. That’s why I say manifestation doesn’t work but the second reason for it is because again, like if we come from this contraction, right? Victoria: Yes, I think the first thing is the moment you notice yourself, admiring what someone else is doing, inspired by something that someone else is doing.