In contrast, working hard on one's sexuality, once the party is over, marks a woman, if not Bad, as someone out of step -- a retarded hippie, an object of resentment and envy by other women. Even though this book is rather dated, it is still relevant to today's women and their fantasies, and, to be honest, after reading this, it doesn't make your own seem so odd! But women today at least know they are entitled to anger, and fantasy is a safe playground where they can show rage at all the obstacles that stand in their way, beginning with rage at the enormous difficulty in being sexual plus all the other things a woman today must be. Also, it has always been my belief that women tell me things they say they've never told a living soul because I am Nancy to them and not Dr. Back then it was exhilarating to think of a woman who had a secret sexual life of her own, a woman who might share half of the responsibility for sex.

As children we feared that the sexual feeling would lose us the love of someone upon whom we depended for life itself; the guilt, planted early and deep, arose because we didn't want the forbidden sexual feeling to go away. Today many young men tell me that the new woman is too frightening, demanding; she wants it all, indeed she may have it all. Even on college campuses, the surveys show that a partner's career potential far outweighs sexual compatibility. The hypocrisy of Friday's feminism is disturbingly transparent as she scribes her pawns discussions on such topics as; the thrill of beating men to death, the application of peanut-butter-to-pussy for the enjoyment of the family pet, or being "force fucked" by a pair of caged gorillas. Let me emphasize that it requires the support of both sexes for the patriarchal system to hold; it tottered in the 1970s only because enough women banded together and loudly demanded change.I bought this as a hen night present and some of the women's fantasies are very explicit, great fun and possibly great for a newly married couple! But I believe your sexual lives will run a different course from that of earlier generations of women. We should value our erotic reveries no less seriously, because they are the complex expressions of what we consciously desire and unconsciously fear. There is something very workmanlike and reliable about the traditional bullies and bad people whose intractable presence allows the woman to reach her goal, orgasm.

It's been almost twenty years since I first came across this collection of women's sexual fantasies.But within months it seemed that women's erotic reveries had been with us always, so much so that advertisers were using fantasy as a selling tool before the year was over.