No matter how well you may think you know each other, your partner isn't a mind reader. If there is something you want to change about your sex life, then it's important to talk about it. If your partner is really committed to you, then they will be willing to listen and respect your needs. [11] X Research source Touching your own body parts to cause sexual pleasure. This can be done alone or at the same time as someone else. Sex toys can be used during masturbation, including vibrators, dildos, anal toys, and more. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services/Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; World Health Organization (WHO) Department of Reproductive Health and Research, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health/Center for Communication Programs (CCP). Knowledge for health project. Family planning: a global handbook for providers (2018 update) [online]. Baltimore, MD; Geneva, Switzerland: CCP and WHO; 2011; and Trussell J. Contraceptive failure in the United States. Contraception 2011;83:397–404. Available from https://www.who.int/reproductivehealth/publications/fp-global-handbook/en/ Communicate openly with your partner . Communication with your partner will improve your sexual satisfaction and help with your intimacy. [8] X Research source Davis, D., Shaver, P. R., Widaman, K. F., Vernon, M. L., Follette, W. C., & Beitz, K. (2006). “I can't get no satisfaction”: Insecure attachment, inhibited sexual communication, and sexual dissatisfaction. Personal Relationships,13(4), 465-483 [9] X Research source Byers, E. S., & Demmons, S. (1999). Sexual satisfaction and sexual self‐disclosure within dating relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 36(2), 180-189 [10] X Research source Haavio-Mannila, E., & Kontula, O. (1997). Correlates of increased sexual satisfaction. Archives of sexual behavior, 26(4), 399-419 It can be hard to establish and maintain open communication with your partner, especially if you aren't comfortable with sex and what you want. Think about what you can say and still feel comfortable and safe. If Fifty Shades Of Grey is anything to go by, the general consensus seems to be that chains, whips and answering the door naked will lead you to a more thrilling sex life, but as the experts prove, having better sex is actually much more achievable than you might think, and a few tweaks here and there could lead to your best sex ever. 11 tips to improve your sex life 1. Rethink scheduled sex

Don’t feel bad – honestly, I came to your book after reading a load of other stuff and it was SO much better, the difference was exponential. Ok, so maybe there was some stuff you could have done better – but your ‘bad’ writing was still an awful lot better than most other people’s ‘good’ writing! According to Michael Castleman, a San Francisco-based sex expert and author of Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, the average frequency of sex in committed long-term relationships is roughly once every 10 days. Right. The mouth. Useful for kissing and other orally administered forms of arousal (none of which should be underestimated), it’s also a tool for communication. Try it. Tell them what you want. Ask them what they like. Shoot for trust and openness. Medical conditions. Illnesses that involve the cardiovascular system, high blood pressure, diabetes, hormonal problems, depression, or anxiety can affect sex drive and function. You can talk to your doctor about strategies to combat these issues. Anticholinergics used to treat many conditions related to lungs, bladder, intestine, dizziness and nausea/vomiting

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The fall in hormone levels for men and women once they pass 50 can result in a natural decline in sex drive. But other emotional and health factors can also play a big part. I would also recommend investing in a vibrator for women, and spending more time on manual foreplay for both sexes,” says Susan. Don't be shy. Hold hands and touch your partner often, and encourage them to touch you. Tell your partner what you love about them, and share your ideas about new sexual experiences you might have together.International Society for Sexual Medicine: "What are Kegel exercises and what sexual health benefits might they have?"

When over-50s magazine Saga surveyed their readers about their changing sex lives, most (around 85%) admitted they made love less frequently now than they did in their 20s and 30s. But don’t despair – the research also revealed older couples weren’t skipping sex completely. Almost half of those questioned said they did still manage sex at least once a week. So, introduce sexy acts into your everyday life. Whether that’s taking selfies or wearing lacy underwear, Bryan says, it’s essential that you see yourself as sexual. It sounds simple. Obvious, even. But there is a socially taught method to sex that many people feel they need to follow. This method doesn’t work for all people, so it’s worth pointing out that the only sex you “should” have, is the kind you like. Some of the other fictions that porn perpetuates are the idea that women are always primed and ready (“in the real world,” Davidson says, “people do say ‘no’”); that the same moves work on every partner; that satisfying sex always culminates in orgasm. Fleabaghas memorably put female masturbation on screen. Period. End of Sentence. – a film about women making biodegradable sanitary pads in Hapur, India – won an Oscar for Best Short Documentary, prompting the headline: Menstruation Finally Gets the Attention It Deserves at the Oscars.And Cosmopolitan, in partnership with Men’s Health, has partnered with UK schools to improve sex ed offerings.

It’s a constant battle for me to be more vulnerable, but I’m definitely doing it more than I used to and I think the easiest way to be more vulnerable is through honest communication,” she says. Great sex is about loving your own body More books are on the way, including Period. by broadcaster Emma Barnett, Private Parts: Or How I Learnt to Live with My Dysfunctional Uterus by Eleanor Thom, and comedian Sara Pascoe’s Sex Power Money. O'Connell HE, Sanjeevan KV, Hutson JM. Anatomy of the clitoris. The Journal of urology. 2005 Oct 31;174(4):1189-95. HIV is transmitted through the exchange of certain types of bodily fluids including blood, semen, breast milk, and vaginal fluids (18)

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Before you put anything inside a vagina, it's important that you're fully, properly aroused. When you're aroused, the vagina expands and gets wet while the genital tissue becomes engorged with blood. This helps intercourse and penetration feel good rather than painful or uncomfortable. Be sure you're giving adequate time and attention to the clitoris. If possible, have an orgasm before penetration. Women and female-bodied people have orgasms most reliably through oral sex or with a sex toy. Make your pleasure a priority. 7. Expand Your Vocabulary Erectile dysfunction, as it’s known by doctors, can often have medical causes – including heart disease or diabetes. I’m on the launch team and have finished the Good Guy’s Guide. I loved it. I’m in the middle of Good Girl’s Guide and I’m loving that too.